Surprisingly, conflict in relationships does not necessarily signal unhappiness. When couples learn how to fight well, they can actually use conflict to understand each other better and enhance their relationship. Cutting-edge scientific research conducted by a team led by Dr. John M. Gottman, marriage and parenting researcher from the University of Seattle, has led to concrete advice on what to do and what to avoid in an argument with your partner. This video summarizes a few of his ideas - how to:
- accept responsibility and explore how you contribute to the problem
- avoid defensiveness when hearing your partner's concern
- avoid contempt when voicing your concern
- repair the relationship during a conflict
In addition, he describes the secret to a happy marriage - fostering a culture of appreciation and respect.
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